Like other ceremonies, there is also an etiquette of mourning and funeral. There are certain rules to observe and follow. These rules apply on both- family members of the deceased, or a simple friend or acquaintance. Let’s us brief you with them in detail.
The first thing to pay attention to is definitely clothing. Black is no longer compulsory, but a lot of sobriety is still a must. Showy items, jewels, coloured accessories, ties with colourful patterns, heels, furs and boots should be avoided.
The important thing is to choose dignified clothes with dark shades, but at least the deceased’s family members should wear black clothes. Men could wear a white shirt with a black suit and a long tie. Women should avoid eye-catching dresses and jewels that attract attention, as well as stilettos. It is very important to wear socks, even in summer. Dark glasses are tolerated for close relatives, which in this way can cover tears, but are totally out of place for friends and acquaintances.
After the death of a family member, it is wise to turn to a funeral company that will take care of almost everything. Family members can take care of some details such as planning for a funeral memorial card, to give a personal impression to the function. But sometimes, you don’t get the quality and desired design on such short notice. However, some stores like Berylmartin, offer foremost customizable funeral memorial cards ideas with the next day delivery. You can count on such stores.
Apart from this, the family member should take care of the flowers for setting up the mortuary and for the church. The mortuary can be set up in the home, hospital or cemetery, depending on where the death occurred. It is important to maintain a good exchange of air and not to overdo the number of flowers.
It is very important for the guests at the funeral. Attend a funeral on time and close friends should take their seats in the front rows. During the religious service, it is good to conform to the gestures and behaviour of the people around you, even if you are not believers. At the same time, you should not make presentations, comments, or shop around to find out who the participants are.
Upon arrival in the mortuary or at the funeral, it is possible to sign the register of visits made available by the family of the deceased. In agreement with relatives, friends can make a short and spontaneous speech at the end of the function. The applause should be avoided.
The moment when the coffin is loaded onto the hearse is the most suitable time to offer condolences to the family of the deceased.
The news of death should be spread using the publication of an obituary. The general details of the deceased and details on the funeral, such as day, time and place, must be indicated.
To communicate the news to close relatives and friends, the best way is with a phone call. Social networks like Facebook should be avoided. After notifying the most intimate, you can rely on others to circulate the news.
Giving condolences is not an easy task. Don’t use sentences with the term ‘condolences’ to make condolences. It sounds really cold. Instead, it should be as spontaneous as possible and maybe give a smile and a warm hug. Condolences vary according to the relationship you had with the deceased.
For family members – they should also accept sympathy by people who are unwelcome for private reasons
Sending a sympathy gift is still a good method, but in the case of closer relationships, it is always better to make a phone call. Text messages are rude to express condolences. But you can use text to let the family know that you are available in case of need.
The family should always thank the participants in the funeral and those who sent flowers and last wishes to the deceased.
It’s very hard to bid adieu to someone you love. At these times, both friends and family need emotional support. So, make sure whether you are a friend or relative, stand shoulder to shoulder with each other.